In today’s hyperconnected world, being “reachable” has transcended convenience to become an unspoken expectation. At work, you’re praised for your instant replies, even if it’s late at night. Among friends, being unavailable for a few hours might lead to questions like, “Why didn’t you respond sooner?” Even family dynamics have shifted, with technology enabling unfiltered access to our time and energy. This isn’t connectivity—it’s captivity. The cost of this unrelenting availability is far greater than missed calls or unread messages. It’s a silent erosion of mental health that leaves individuals stressed, anxious, and perpetually drained.
Constant connectivity creates a false sense of urgency. Each ping, buzz, or email triggers a small dose of cortisol, the stress hormone. Over time, the accumulation of these micro-stressors builds into something much larger—feelings of overwhelm, irritability, and fatigue. And this isn’t just anecdotal; research shows that excessive digital engagement is linked to heightened levels of anxiety and sleep disturbances. It’s as if our brains are wired to remain in “fight or flight” mode, even when the threats are as benign as a notification from a coworker or a friend’s meme.
Adding to this is the societal glorification of busyness. We’ve romanticized the idea of being perpetually engaged, conflating responsiveness with competence. “Hustle culture” feeds this illusion, where taking a break is equated with falling behind. This not only normalizes but also celebrates behaviour that is inherently unsustainable. It pushes people into cycles of burnout—working harder, faster, and longer, while slowly losing touch with their emotional well-being.
For many, stepping away from this 24/7 cycle feels impossible. The fear of missing out, or worse, the fear of being perceived as uncommitted, keeps people tethered to their devices. Yet the consequences of this inability to disconnect are profound. It damages relationships, as people are physically present but emotionally distracted. It compromises creativity, which thrives in moments of rest and reflection. It even impacts physical health, with chronic stress contributing to issues like headaches, high blood pressure, and a weakened immune system.
But perhaps the most insidious aspect is the guilt that accompanies setting boundaries. Turning off notifications or declining to reply immediately feels countercultural, almost rebellious. And yet, this is precisely what needs to happen. Boundaries are not barriers; they are bridges to healthier lives. They allow for a much-needed pause—a chance to reconnect with oneself, to rest, and to rejuvenate. A boundary might mean taking “do not disturb” seriously, enforcing screen-free hours, or learning to say, “I’ll get back to you tomorrow.”
Organizations and individuals alike have a role to play in undoing this damaging narrative. Workplaces must model healthier communication norms, such as respecting after-hours boundaries or encouraging employees to unplug during vacations. On a personal level, we need to challenge our own habits and redefine what success looks like. Is it really about being the fastest to respond, or is it about showing up as the best version of ourselves when it matters most?
Relearning to be unavailable is, paradoxically, an act of self-preservation in an age of hyperavailability. It’s a reminder that we’re not machines designed to operate continuously but humans who thrive in rhythms of work and rest. By stepping back, we step into something far richer—a life where availability is a choice, not a demand, and where mental health takes precedence over the illusion of productivity.
Written by: Yash Mehrotra
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March, 2025